Lewis, Jersey, and Samuel aka Black Swan, Lebron James, SAMCRO.They're not kids - they're pets. I know.
Just a little PSA/point form summary of my thoughts on this matter:
- I'm not weird because I don't have kids.
- I'm not selfish because I don't have kids.
- The choice to have children is personal - not always a topic for discussion at the office
- I don't have get gaga for babies.
- Just because I don't have my own children, dosn't mean I hate kids.
- Health blogs turned preggo blogs drive my batty. Yes, it's my choice to read. I know that. But sometimes it's like a car wreck, you just have to peak. Maybe it's because I can't relate, but get over yourself already. People have babies every day dammit.
- My ovaries are not old at 31.
Vent over.
How cute are those 3 faces?
15 comments:
You are totally my favorite. Totally.
Those faces are adorable. I love them all!
I should really blog about my sadness over my Farley Cat's entrance - and sad behavior issues - into the land of the Elderly. But I can't talk about it. Because he's lived with me for 12 years. He's my friend. He has my heart.
Family is family. Number of legs don't matter.
Everyone is entitled to their own family framework - however they want, whatever makes them happy! Kids or no kids, it's each person's life! It's incredibly presumptuous to assume anything when a person does not have children and rude to pry about it. I agree.
I do have a comment re the blog thing and I really hope that you understand where I'm coming from and I'm only trying to speak from a point of view that is now different from yours. Before having gone through it myself before, I admit, I would have felt the same way as you. We are, after all, Dirty dancing log partners ;-)
Perspectives definitely change when you see the lines on the stick. It's definitely not a small deal in a person's life and I can definitely see why they would blog about it, especially if they are already a blogger used to blogging about their lives.
Previous to expecting a baby (or after s/he is born), most of the bloggers I assume you are referring to shared bits of their lives and the goings ons through photos of their meals and exercise routines. You'd read about how they went out to a restaurant, went on a trip or a conference, shopping, general life stuff and always pictures of the pets etc. in addition to solely what's for lunch & how many kms they ran or whatever the subject of their life may be.
Pregnancy and motherhood becomes your life, your identity, just like healthy living was the focus before (I've had a post in draft on this subject for MONTHS and I'm going to post it soon). It's just that it's hard to pretend that pregnancy and motherhood isn't the new focus in your life if you're expecting because it is. It has to be. It's all-consuming and it's no joke. Each is a journey all on it's own, both pregnancy and motherhood.
Saying "People have babies every day" downplays this insanely big life-changing experience as if it's not a big deal in a person's life and shouldn't be overshadowing previous things in life which I have to say, with respect, just isn't the case when it's you.
Word. Hate the kid expectation. Its fine to ask but when i politely say i don't think we're going to have any i wish people wouldn't look at me like i must be insane...
i can't wait to get a dog though. =)
I love your pictures! And I feel very similar. Have to say, I usually delete a health blog (or any kind of blog I'm reading) if it becomes "all about baby". That just doesn't interest me.
LOVE your blog comment re babies. You HAVE to be referring to KERF - please tell me you are! Pathetic the way she's pimping out her unborn baby .... I'm a Mom and I just don't get this mindset of this new generation of mothers. Yes, it's lovely to be pregnant and to be a mother, but for the love of God it's not the be all and end all.
I'm afraid I have to agree with Angie here... My kid is 5 mos old, and the reason I post about him so much is because he is all I see and talk to and take care of all day long. It's either blog about baby or don't blog at all. I'm sure the scope widens as the kid gets older, but right now he is my constant companion.
And each person has their own reasons for posting what they post - my parents confessed that they only started to read my blog after the kid was born, so I feel I owe it to them to give them what they came for and keep updating them on his development.
But hey, just because I cranked out a kid doesn't mean I'm going to presume everyone around my age wants to do the same!!!
The animals in my life may not be children but to me they are just as important and I love them to bits! I have all 3 of my cats on the wall at work (daycare) with all the photos of the children and families in my room!
I get harassed weekly over not having or wanting children! People don't understand how I can work with children yet not want any of my own! Thankfully my family is understand and they don't bother me about it!!
I tend to continue watching the health blogs gone baby blogs because I find it entertaining! At times they do irritate me though and I skim and move on to the next blog on my list!!
My cats are totally my kids. And that will not change when I have kids. I will have children and I will have fur babies. I will not love my cats any less.
My ovaries are not dried up at 36, but are getting there. lol I want to have a baby. Soon. But I have time. And if I can't? I hope to adopt.
When and if I get pregnant, I will blog about it. But I probably will start another blog about it. I don't really care either way if people blog about it in their weight loss/health blog or not, because I enjoy reading about it. But you are right, it's your opinion.
I totally love Jersey.
so annoying when i hear people around me talk about that '30 is getting so old'. i'm 32. yup, i'm going to be a mom later in life (no plans for a few years & I'M FINE WITH THAT!). in fact - my husband is even OLDER than me - and he's fine with it too. if you're healthy and not having babies at like 60 - who'se f'ing business it? i kinda like the blogs that have a 2nd blog about their baby. so that the blog continues on, but i don't have to read words like 'placenta' or read the about the birth (that i continue to read about even though it makes me gag a bit).
Listen TELEANGE ..when POPERS in IRA have a LOG about NEVADA mob and it relates to the FATHA and TEXAS TOOTS like SCHAR- CAPSHAW?
And it's about EXPLOSIVES with CONDOLEEZA RICE?
It's time to..in the words of " MARTIN ROPER" - STFU"!
You says " MONTHS"?
MASSACHUSETTS- ONTARIO- TEXAS- NEVADA- HANSEN?
OMG!
That's ECOMPPO with GEDIE and " DIE YOUNG"!
HEPOPADU to DANADELAR .
And you can be certain there will be " PTY LTD" with all that BRATEOPH.
Anonymous..they know KERF?
Been trying to reach him for a month.
KERF?
That the same KERF- BOAKER ?
He the one with PHOKER?
Well he dumped PHOKST for DEWORPH and now MASTESPANKER 69 doing DJ 69 with RECORDS!
Know what I mean?
ONO.
DASSAULT- JEB- JOE.
NIGHTMARE!
DR. JAY - RICK BERLIN- ZOODUCE , for crissakes!
That's some wierd stuff up there....
I love that you have pics of your furballs. I have kids, and I never think it's wierd to see a picture or two or three of a pet.
I think the lady in my office that has 20 pictures of her various cats is a little wierd though. I am not going to lie. But if she had 20 pictures of her kids, I may think the same thing!
My pets are like babies to me so I totally know where you're coming from.
Babies are not for me, at least, not for now !
Love those faces :)
I was insane 19 yrs and 16 yrs ago..lol...when I wanted kids that is...I'm totally sure you will age much better then I ever will! And that is totally your business....and my business....no one elses!
And I have some of those faces at home and trust me...they listen and love much better.
Have a great woman's day girly :)
MFO
I can see both sides. I am a bit tired of all my old fav blogs being all about pregnancy. I don't mind a bit of it, but I just move on and find some new ones that interest me. I understand though, that it's life changing and important to that person, and can't say I wouldn't include a bit in my blog if I were preggo. Having kids is personal. You're ovaries are definitely not dried up at 31 if mine aren't at 33!! EVERYONE makes me feel like I'm running out of time to decide what I want including my DR! When I'm ready I figure if it's meant to be it will be. If not, we are okay with that too. Love the furkids pictures, don't think its weird at all. Lots of people have their pictures. A woman that was helping me pay a bill once grabbed her wallet and showed me photo's of her furbabies. I thought it was sweet :-)
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